Tuesday, April 13, 2010

True love

Hi everyone, these days when i'm gisting with friends (u see in this corpers lodge, there is notin much to do so there's a lot of gisting) we tend to talk a lot bout relationships, men, women, cheating and the reasons for doing so. The general concensus among my people here is that there is no faithful man and as long as he respects you by not flaunting his affairs in ur face, then you couldn't wish for a better husband. My insides literally churn when i hear this view and especially if they are held by the female folk. WHAAAAAT? So they are preparing themselves for a lifetime of unfaithfullness and bulls**t? No be me, i dont roll that way. In the course of trying to present my view, sumbody calls me unsubmissive (i cant even fit to laff) dude was going on and on, giving advice to the femalefolk on how to keep their men and condone their cheating philandeering ways, he advices that women should not fight/confront their cheating spouses but instead pamper them, have their food ready run him a hot/cold bath as the case maybe, make ur body available for him (in case he wants dessert after chopping anoda woman belleful?), then he'll see the error in his ways and change, and i say lai lai and dude says that he can already tell that i aint the submissive type. na u sabi, Submissive and mumu arent synonyms in my dictionary. So what am i trying to say? I believe that as a 'good' girl with morals and values, i deserve the same and won't settle for less, i was conceived, born and brought up in love, so i expect noting less than what i have to give. This morning, i was talking to my parents bout my masters programme and i asked where they were and they replied in my neighbours compound getting water coz our plumbing went bad, they stay alone as my younger ones are in school, they call it their second honeymoon. I could just imagine the two of them standing at the tap and gisting. After 23 years of marriage, my dad calls my mum his girlfriend, kisses her in public and he is not ashamed to declare his love for her anywhere. And now some random boy is telling me to accept that i will marry an unfaithful man? No way! To whom much is given much is expected. I have seen true love and i'm gonna get mine! *wish me luck*

10 comments:

  1. i am with you!!!!!
    i totally expect faithful love in return!

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  2. Yeah, I've been in this argument many times before too, but you think about it? What if there are no faithful men left in the world?? Have you stopped to think that maybe those men you think have never and can never cheat are simply the best cheats (i.e. never get caught) but uphold their own end to their wives? just saying o. lol

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  3. totally with u.....i cnt settle for less

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  4. @BBB, thanks dear, glad u agree. @SK, where did all the faithful men go then? I agree they are a dime a dozen but they are not extinct so i'll get mine. An unfaithful man can't hide forever, he'll def be caught someday. P.s: i can vouch for my dadda. @Rene, thanks for agreeing.

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  5. I also think there are faithful men out there. It ups the chances for both parties like you said if there is true love.

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  6. True love and faithful men do exist.I totally refuse to believe that there are no good men...
    Awww @ your dad!

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  7. thanks so much for stopping by mine and the birthday message, kind of u.

    this argument, hmm. ur dad is a great man but i can tell u there are very very few of his type. i used to hate that argument too, but the truth is at some point we might have to accept that owing of cos to the fact that faithful men are going into extinction, lol.
    its disgusting but sadly true.

    love ur blog already

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  8. PS: would have applied to be ur dad's 2nd wife but seen that he's SO taken, i'll pray i find his type. kissing at that age?! aww men, thats adorable!

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  9. @myne, well said. @tricia, thanks. Me daddy is a darling. @omotee, u are highly welcome. 2nd wife ke? No space. Lol. Pls do come by again.

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  10. "...general concensus among my people here is that there is no faithful man..." fortunately, a general concensus does not give a true verdict in this case. There are faitfhful men.

    "...as long as he respects you by not flaunting his affairs in ur face,..." having an affair already dishonours her who he married in addition to disrespects her.

    "...then you couldn't wish for a better husband." OMG, have standards been so compromised that a philandering husband is being celebrated (by some female folks, if am right)?

    Wow!!! now this is scary. If the female folks have such compromised standards, then, there is serious problem.

    In life, we always get what we want based on the standards we have set for ourselves.

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